STRESS treatment

understand stress and get the tools to avoid it in the future

​It can be difficult to understand and acknowledge that one is affected by stress.

We live in a culture where we are expected to "handle it all."

But stress is not a sign of weakness.

It is a state of strain where your body's alarm system is overactive.

Most people experience periods of stress and manage to cope.

However, if you don't have enough time to recover between high-pressure situations, stress can become a chronic condition that affects both your personal and professional life.

are you also afraid to start reading about STRESS?​

​It's difficult to find a website or book about stress that doesn't list all the horrors of stress:

The problem is that if you start reading about stress, it's because you're afraid that you might have it—and reading about all the terrible things only further fuels the stress, increasing anxiety and exacerbating the stress itself. Do I need to say more?

That's why I wrote the book "Frøen i gryden" ("The Frog in the Pot"), which you can safely read without being scared because none of the terrible things are included.

The book will soon be in English too.

the secret to stress treatment: we are going to play risk!

Are you familiar with the board game Risk?

​It's essentially about conquering the world.

Fundamentally, your body has a red system, a green system, and a blue system:

The Threat System:

The red system revs up and prepares your body for fight or flight. When you're stressed, the red system pumps adrenaline, noradrenaline, and cortisol throughout your body.

These hormones keep you on your toes, ready to run or fight, and your thinking narrows down, automatically scanning for anything potentially dangerous.

The Soothing System:

The green system is responsible for helping you relax. It brings your body back down to earth by releasing oxytocin and endorphins.

When you predominantly activate the Soothing System, you're able to feel the things that make you happy and recognize what is right and important for you. Your thinking expands, and you can see options for action while experiencing balance and energy.

Drive:

You also have a system that motivates you. It's essentially neutral, but many of us don't take the time to assess what is truly important for us to pursue. As a result, we often chase after the wrong "medals."

Ideally, the systems are balanced. 

However, many of us spend a significant amount of time in either the Threat System or Drive, and we don't always transition into the Soothing System for a long enough period to restore balance.

​When you're stressed, the red system takes over.

Cortisol is the red enemy. Oxytocin is our green commander. The red soldiers have too much control over your world map – let's create some more green ones!

what to do if stress has moved in?

We react to stress based on our genetics, environment, and "rules for living." 

Therefore, the symptoms and causes can vary greatly from person to person.

Your body's mechanisms are the same, whether the stress is due to poor workplace conditions, a divorce, the death of a loved one, illness, a traumatic experience, or simply prolonged overload, regardless of whether there was a specific triggering cause that you are aware of.

Because stress leaves such physical imprints, you have to consider both the body and mind.

Mindfulness is essentially about being present in the here and now, without judging or evaluating your experiences.

It may sound simple, but it's one of the most challenging things you can be asked to do. Researchers at Harvard found that 47% of our lives, we are mentally somewhere else than where we physically are.

It's quite unfortunate to have spent 14 days in Barbados and only been fully present for half of that time...

The purpose of mindfulness is essentially to savor life more fully. Besides getting more out of the things you already do, mindfulness can enable you to handle unpleasant situations and change your relationship with your thoughts, emotions, and bodily sensations.

Mindfulness originates from the Buddhist religion, where it has been practiced for over 2,500 years.

It was purified from its religious aspects and introduced to the Stress Reduction Clinic at the University of Massachusetts Medical Center in the 1970s by Jon Kabat-Zinn.

Saki Santorelli, a professor of medicine, joined Jon and later took over as the head of the Center for Mindfulness in Medicine, Health Care, and Society, initiating the Mindfulness movement.

​Since then, Mindfulness has been researched repeatedly. It is evidence-based and widely used across the globe.

For instance, if you go to a doctor with depression in England or Holland, the doctor may ask whether you prefer medication or Mindfulness as a treatment option.

Mindfulness can be used to address various issues, including:

  • Stress - both positive and negative stress
  • Sleep problems
  • Memory issues
  • Acceptance of challenging life circumstances
  • Low self-esteem
  • Social anxiety
  • Racing or intrusive thoughts
  • Pain management

Mindfulness is a tool to move your focus from your thoughts to something you can see, hear, count, sense ect.

This calms your nervous system and gives you a time-out in your head.​

I have had the pleasure of attending more than 100 hours of teaching/training with Jon Kabat-Zinn and Saki Santorelli in 2014 when they were in Denmark and with Saki again 5 days in a row in 2018, 2022 and 2023.

I have since 2022 received weekly training from Saki Santorelli by Zoom from the US and practice Mindfulness as a way of living every day.

Mindfulness helps you to:

  • Increase presence and awareness in daily life.
  • Enhance judgment and decision-making.
  • Cultivate self-awareness and self-compassion.
  • Cope with difficult emotions, thoughts, anxiety, depression, and insecurity.
  • Foster self-care, healing, and personal development.
  • Gain better control over your thoughts, reactions, and actions.
  • Prevent and address stress-related disorders, both physical and mental.
  • Create clarity and organization in your life.
  • Embrace reality as it is.
  • Develop inner peace, joy, and resilience.

how do i get started?

You can get far if you know only one number.

The number 4.

Breathe in counting to 4.

Breathe out counting to 4.

When that has become a habit, extend it to 4-4-4;

Breathe in on 4. Hold it on 4. Breathe out on 4.

Then extend to 4-5-6.

And then move on to 4-7-8. Read  about the method here.

"As you start to walk on the way, the way appears."

Rumi

"“We must be willing to encounter darkness and despair when they come up and face them, over and over again if need be, without running away or numbing ourselves in the thousands of ways we conjure up to avoid the unavoidable.”

Jon Kabat-Zinn

✓ Member of the Danish Psychotherapist association

✓ More than 6.000 individual sessions  

✓ 24+ years experience in professional communication

Mette B.​ Lorenzen

​Cognitive Psychotherapist MPF

Denmark